Bondage is becoming something that many sexual partners participate in, and it’s not the big secret that was once hidden from people. Popular films and novels, such as the 50 Shades of Grey, has glorified the pleasures of bondage, open its doors to a whole new audience. Whether you are trying to break out of your shell or want to try something new and different with your partner, learning how to enjoy bondage will enable you to experience something truly pleasurable and unique.
The first thing to know about bondage is what actually is considered bondage. While most people will think about people being tied up from head to toe and whipped by their “master,” bondage can be explained in a much easier manner. Participating in bondage in when either your or your sexual partner restricts the movement of the other or eliminate some of their senses while heightening others. Have you ever blindfolded your woman while kissing her all over her body? How about handcuff her hands to the bedpost so that she couldn’t squirm away as you had your way with her? Both of these examples demonstrate different types of bondage and many partners participate in them without knowing the terminology for it.
The thing that attracts people to bondage is the exchange of power that occurs. Men can be at the mercy of a woman, while a woman can be teased and taunted until a man decides that she can climax. When a person is restricted in their movement, they are not able to pleasure their partner in the same manner, meaning that there is an extra layer of focus on their own bodies and the pleasure that is being given to it. Men are typically in power during sex, and they can quickly have the tables turned on them if they are tied down with their wife or girlfriend teasing them from time to time. This acquisition of power is one that many women enjoy having when they participate in bondage.
One of the key things to determine when you start exploring your sexual preferences is whether you are a sadist or masochist. You may have heard about S&M before, and understanding the differences can greatly alter your sexual experience. Are you the type of person who gets pleasure from being punished and in pain? Do like to have your abilities taken away and be at the will of your partner? If that’s the case, you are a masochist. The opposite definition, those that like to inflict pain on others or have the power in a sexual position, are the sadists. By learning what you like to have done (or taken away) you’ll be able to enjoy your bondage experience much better.
As for actually participating in bondage, experimentation and safety are the two most important factors. Some will like their movement restricted with ropes and handcuffs while others will like the prickling pain of a whip or hot wax on their body. Bondage is about giving yourself to the experience and letting emotions take over so that you can feel the highest levels of pleasure. It will take a few tries to know how tight your partner likes to be bound or what you should do to them sexually, but the learning process can be just as exciting as the sexual acts themselves.
Given the nature of how bondage is and what can occur when participating in bondage, safety is paramount. The whole thing is to give off the illusion of danger submission, but never take things too far and make your partner feel uncomfortable or harm them. Agree on some “safe words” that are indicators that whatever action that is being performed needs to be stopped immediately. This way, if your woman screams “no, don’t!” you can actually continue with your activities because you know that her resistance is adding to her pleasure. Choose a word that is unique and quickly indicates a red flag. Experimenting with your partner can be fun, but it’s important to prevent any real injuries from occurring.
Lastly, there are some very common types of “equipment” that are used during these activities. Things like rope, candles, vibrators, gags, chains, tape, and paddles can all be used to take things to the next level. Try different fetishes, such as anal and role reversal to find out what is the most pleasurable for both of you. This is the time to step out of your comfort zone and try something different.
The world of bondage can be a scary, yet exciting, new chapter in your life. Whether you want to rekindle a boring sex life or just want to see what all of the hype is about, bondage is something that can be blissful when done right. Don’t worry about going too extreme at once. Sex is about connecting with your partner on many levels, and bondage is just another great tool to give you the best sexual pleasure you can experience.
Once you are comfortable with everything that lies ahead of you, I strongly suggest you take a look at my Sexual Pioneer System. It is a step-by-step walk through of everything you need to know to get the most of of your bondage and kink sessions.
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Keep them coming!!!!!!!!
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Wow! All the things you’ve been sending has given me a lot of insight & I really love to please a women when given the opportunity. Thanks..
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Yes please! All of the insights I can get, the better! I appreciate that you range from general to very specific. Need it all.
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My girl and I love bondage she is easily distracted especially visually so a blindfold focuses her attention in what I’m doing to her rather than what’s in the room I haven’t yet but I also want to diminish her hearing with earplugs. She loves being restrained has never said NO to anything I want to do with it to her other than she was forced to perform oral on a man when she was young so if I cum in her mouth she has problems she wants it but trma causes issues. She iites wante to be even mire dominant ordering her rather than telling or asking her to do something She is very sexual so she is always willing.I’m looking for some good bondage porn to see how she reacts to that. I love binding her hands and legs and fucking her crazy with a rabbitt viberator until she cums and cums and begs me to Fuck her and fill her witot hot cum she absolutely craves that.
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This is a splendid seen for thought
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I believe that nature of bondage which most sexually aggresive people can tolerate would be a
situation that has been discussed -talked about and agreed to by both.
E.g. If the woman agrees have her wear a tight laytex corset which pushes up her brests and makes her feel wanted and wonderful.Best of luck 647-293-1187 Jack
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The Story of O is another book that is worth the read.
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Thank you so much Isabella.
Words cannot describe how great I feel after having read the blog.
I have such a passionate affinity for Bondage Domination Sadism and Masochism (BDSM).
The realm of fetish is beautifully dark paradise.
I will forever continue to appreciate insights when it comes to BDSM.
There is a website known as “Extreme Restraints” which is completely dedicated to one’s fetishes, beyond their wildest dreams. -
looks interesting would like more info
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I feel sex Life is So Beautifull..Now I have to do The Marriage
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Very well written. I have discovered bondage within the last few years. Lots of fun when done rote lol 🙂 However it’s still about a close relationship due to the fact of trust that’s involved.
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This Bondage article was very informative and well written. It clearly defined the dichotomy of S and M (sadist, pain giver and Masochist, pain recipient) and opportunity for partners to switch roles.
Bondage is a consensual TRUST between MASTER and submissive.TRUST that the MASTER will protect the submissive from harm and that the submissive will report harmful actions.
Prior to any BONDAGE scene both the Master and the submissive must agree on the following:
1. Most importantly is determining and use of the “SAFE” word (such as RED) to stop the scene to avoid any harm to the recipient.
2. Acceptable / consensual vocabulary as to avoid a previous painful psychological trauma; such as using the words, a**hole, bitch, cunt; etc may be offensive or on the other hand may be exactly what the submissive desires.Many thanks to all for educating us in BDSM,
Respectfully submitted,
Domfrancisco
3. Levels of administered physical pain. Possibly start lightly and slowly building up to higher intensities with submissive feedback for future more intense scenes.
4. Submissive should always notify a close friend, relative or confidant about the time and location of the scene. If submissive does not or unable to telephone the confidant, contact the authorities for safety reasons.
5. After each scene the MASTER should compliment the submissive on positive performance and or counsel and/or reprimand submissive for negative performance.Finally after reviewing “COMMENTS”, many thanks to the following contributors:
A. Leonardo, who said”There is a website known as “Extreme Restraints” which is completely dedicated to one’s fetishes, beyond their wildest dreams. ”
B. Testure, who said”The Story of O is another book that is worth the read “ -
Your posts are always excellent.
However there are many things about women sexuality that I do not understand.Now that women are financialy independent,that they dominate universities,that they have sucessful carears,that they can choose their sexual partners,etc.they still like 50 shades of gray sex model,where a young women is treated like an animal?!
I really can not understand
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Enjoyable and stimulating article. Bondage has always interested me but I’ve been hesitant. Shy I guess. I’m going to go a bit more bold now. Thanks
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Great sex but my wife never lets me take her over the edge how do i get her to open the flood gates. She tells me she get too excited any ideas! ??
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Excellent article
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hi I want to learn more about bondage. I have met someone who likes this type of thing and I am very interested in it also. at this point I don’t know anything about it and I’m looking for information on it.
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